If you have heard me discuss feminism...you know I feel passionate about it. I probably say things that offend many when I discuss it (ie "why did women fight to be in the work place again? pretty sure it bites.") and I know people are somewhat shocked to hear such a young woman feel so adamantly that women are getting confused about what equality really means... That we are doing it all wrong.(in my opinion of course)
When I was 16 I moved to Boston and was overwhelmed with women on a mission to prove they are just as capable as men in every way possible. And for some reason I have been rebelling against that idea ever since.
All these women preaching feminist ideas were not showing me that women were equal to men. What I thought they were showing me is that to be equal to men...you had to try to be like men, succeed at what they do, play their game with their rules... and if you can do it, then you have earned equality... or in other words, equal pay.
Well maybe I'm an ultra feminist or maybe I'm anti feminist... I am not exactly sure what I am, but I think we as women have gotten a little lost with this fight.
I believe men and women are most equal when women are respected for what they do best and men are respected for what they do best...not what we do the same. When we can be so different and still appreciate and respect what the other can do for us.
I think God made men and women different for a reason. I think balance is a beautiful thing. I think gender roles were not forced upon men and women in the beginning...but occurred naturally due to strengths and weaknesses. Now somewhere down the line it became a "man's world"...I definitely agree with that. And now I think its even more a "mans world" with more and more women taking on "male roles" in their homes and work places and less and less women wanting to take on the challenges of traditional female responsibilities.
Could this lack of balance contribute to increased divorce rates? Neglected children? Psychological problems?... I haven't done enough research, but my theory is that it has a lot to do with it.
I know we are all equal.. So Why do I still feel embarrassed sometimes to admit that my dream job is to be a great wife and mother? It seems to me we have made little progress. And I think the only way to change that is to take pride in what we do... to not be embarrassed about being a great mother. To know that is the greatest accomplishment. Because the more and more we stray from that, the more and more we and the world believes that motherhood, the essential female role, is not all its cracked up to be.